Potential? Opinions pleasePosted: July 8, 2014
Okay, my circle of e-advisors. Let me brief you on the potential Daddy I mentioned in a previous post, the one who I felt was being too pushy with texts and asking me to explain why I need a Dom via e-mail. We’ll call him Dark Daddy, just to avoid my blog becoming a totally confusing maze of Daddies and Doms. I’m gonna go back and re-name the others as well.
I told him that I didn’t think he was for me because it felt like he was already dominating me, and I am not his submissive.
He said “You feel dominated because I asked for an e-mail? Wow, he really scarred you.”
I told him that yes, I am scarred and I told him this so he should expect me to get spooked if he comes on too strong. But also that I just didn’t feel like I should have to beg him to be with me–he either wants me, or he doesn’t. I’m not going to let my need for this kind of relationship make me doormat again.
He told me that the reason he asked for an email was because when he’d asked me why I needed a Dom via text, I had been kind of coy about it. He said if this wasn’t a deep-down need, but instead just a want to fill the space between my legs, he needed to know.
He brought up my ex-Daddy (now known as Sugar Daddy), and asked me if I thought he was really a Daddy. I said no. He explained that he understood my need to make sure he is a real Daddy, but he also needs to make sure I am a real baby girl. That I am not just playing around, because he doesn’t want to get hurt either.
And then I mentioned the issue of the texting, and he said all I had to do was tell him I was at work. He understands that sometimes I’m at work, with my kids, or out with friends, and he knows that sometimes he needs to wait. But I can’t expect him to just sense when he should stop texting me unless I tell him.
We added each other on FetLife today (we met on AFF–don’t judge me), and I really liked his profile. Basically it described who he is as a Daddy (not much sex talk but a lot about offering guidance, support and growth), and then he wrote that he is not interested in playing games, so “come correct, or don’t come at all.” Loved it.
So…since we know my judgement is shaky at best, what do we think? Do we keep getting to know him? (Aside from the fact that I obviously shouldn’t be dating anyone right now–we’ll just breeze past that, ha ha.)